A Conversation I Can't Believe Just Happened in my Library

  • Patron (browsing the new books): Why do we have a book on W.E.B. Dubois?
  • Me: Someone donated that last week. Why shouldn't we have it?
  • Patron: Well, wasn't he a black guy? We don't get a lot of black people at this library.
  • Me: Why shouldn't white people read books about black people?
  • Patron: Wasn't he also a communist?
  • Me: Why shouldn't we read books about communists?

IF YOU’RE ONLY GOING TO PAY ME ONCE A MONTH IT’S REALLY FUCKING IMPORTANT THAT YOU PAY ME ON TIME WHY IS THIS A HARD CONCEPT OH MY GOD

Mini-Rant: Crafting and Common Sense

Ok, so I’m making some seasonally-themed jewelry for a craft fair. The idea is little beaded candy corns on black or white ribbon.
They’re cute, they’re inexpensive, and they’re the kind of thing that might appeal to a range of people (adults who like seasonal stuff, children, etc.).
So, here is ze item:
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And, really, I am happy with these.

I am so happy with them, that I sold one to a library patron, who was shopping for birthday gifts for her granddaughter.

Well, today I got a phone call from her: her granddaughter tried to take the necklace off over her head, the ribbon wasn’t long enough, and the jump ring at the clasp broke.

To me, the clear issue here is that the necklace isn’t meant to be put on/taken off over your head.
It has a clasp for a reason, and the jump ring would not have broken from regular use.

Well, she suggested that I should put them on a longer ribbon with no clasp at all, which I honestly do not want to do.
First of all: the length of the ribbon — 16 inches — was a conscious choice. 16” is a fairly standard (and universally flattering) length for necklaces.
Like, it’s long enough to look cute on an adult, but not so long that it’ll be around your kindergartener’s navel.
Second of all: this necklace is not designed ~for children~. It’s not a ~children’s~ necklace. I’m not going to put my necklaces on 2-foot ribbons so that children don’t break the clasps, because that length (at least in this style) won’t look good on anyone.
If your child can’t use the necklace as it’s intended, your child either needs to be supervised (i.e., you put it on and take it off of them) or shouldn’t have a necklace.

I offered to fix the necklace for her, but she insisted that she just wanted to let me know about the issue her granddaughter had, so I could avoid this issue in the future.
But, other than making little cards that say “please use clasp! necklace is not designed to be put on/taken off over head!” I’m not sure what else I can really do.
Like, the necklace design and construction wasn’t flawed; the kid was using the necklace incorrectly.

ETA: Like, I know these are basically just seasonal crap. They’re not ~art~ and it’s not an affront to my ~artistic integrity~ to change the design. And, obviously, I want people who buy shit from me to be happy with it! I want people to have a good experience!
I’m just really rankled that someone expects me to change a *fully functional* design (and make the product less attractive) because a three year old manhandled one.

  • Me: Here are two corn mazes we could go to.
  • BF: I like the first one. What do you think?
  • Me: I like the first one. Let's pick a date.
  • BF: I pick you.
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korrabehappyplease asked: Speaking of Azula, does anyone know what happened to her? Apparently she runs off into the night (maybe day) in the comics, never to be heard from again. I don't really like that ending. It's rather unclear.

korrabook4please:

evelynvincible:

swani-writes:

That is the last anyone hears of her. We don’t know what happens to her after that.

Aang says that it’s a turn for the better or some shit, but NO ONE GOES TO LOOK FOR THE MENTALLY UNSTABLE, EXTREMELY POWERFUL, FIREBENDER!

I thought it was established in “The Search” (spoiler warning I guess?) that Azula ran off into Forgetful Valley, and it was implied that she was going to request a new face/new mind from the spirit who lives there.
If that were the case, Aang might think it would be “for the better” in the sense that Azula would have a chance for an entirely new life, completely separate from her previous trauma and instabilities.
Which would also be “better” for the world at large, because there would be one fewer mentally unstable firebender running around.
That was how I understood that ending. 

Wait, if this is true then we may never find out what happens to “Azula” because she became someone else! It might be better yes, but running away from your problems isn’t always the greatest solution, especially when you leave loved ones behind.

Ursa escaped, got a new face, and forgot about Zuko and Azula. That didn’t help matters. Sure it might have allowed her to escape her own problems, but by doing that look at how Zuko and Azula were impacted. That ending seems even more unsatisfactory then her just running away for a while, but eventually coming back or being found.

One should of course practice self care, but they also need to practice self awareness and how their actions are going to impact others around them.

Ursa had a happy, safe existence as Noriko. Ditto for Ikem.
It’s purely speculation whether anyone would have benefitted from Ursa living her life as herself and, really, I think the world of the story makes a strong case for changing identity being in Ursa’s best interest.
After all, would the Firelord’s ~missing~ wife be safe anywhere in the world? Would she ever be able to have a life of her own?
Certainly not with Ikem. Certainly not in her hometown.

And she was forbidden from seeing or contacting her children, regardless of whether she could or wanted to. Ursa changing faces had no impact on Zuko or Azula.
Remember: Azula’s insecurity about her mother’s love, and Zuko’s abandonment issues, are a result of Ursa’s bargain with Ozai (to save Zuko’s life), not her decision to change faces. 

Not to mention that changing faces (and modifying her memory) allowed Ursa to have the life she had always imagined for herself — marry the love of her life, live in her hometown, work in the theater — without the shadow of murder and marital abuse, the threat of retribution for *cheating* on the Firelord, and the knowledge of her helplessness in the face of her children’s predicament.

So the assertion that Ursa’s decision to change her identity “didn’t help matters” and was exclusively to “escape her own problems” rings pretty hollow.

And as far as Azula’s concerned? She has no “loved ones” to leave behind. She’s a toxic, dangerous person, who has driven away all her friends and family to the point where she does not believe herself lovable.
She was used as a weapon by her father, who is himself a toxic, dangerous, selfish person. Her last grasp at her old self was trying to prove that Zuko had no claim to the title Firelord. 
With that disproved, she has no ~place~ in the Fire Nation. She has no capacity to serve her country. She isn’t a leader. She isn’t a strategist. She isn’t beloved of her people. She doesn’t command anyone’s loyalty. She isn’t wise.
All she is — ultimately — is a very powerful, very dangerous firebender, who feels that she has been wronged, yet has no capacity to affect change within herself.

Realizing that who she is is more than she can handle — and that she doesn’t know how to change on her own — is a huge step.
Deciding that she would rather have a new identity, when so far her value (and her insecurities) have been tied to her identity as Fire Nation Princess, firebending prodigy, favorite child of the Firelord, is an enormous choice!
And we know from “the Search” that it is possible to find out what became of people who changed faces.
We know that it’s possible for them to have their memories restored. 
So it’s not impossible that Azula will be around, that she will be relevant, that she will, eventually, be able to revisit her childhood and come to terms with her experiences.
But even if she doesn’t, the fact that Azula is conceivably living a happy, fulfilled life, free of the fears and insecurities that haunted her childhood, I think that’s inarguably a good thing.

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korrabehappyplease asked: Speaking of Azula, does anyone know what happened to her? Apparently she runs off into the night (maybe day) in the comics, never to be heard from again. I don't really like that ending. It's rather unclear.

swani-writes:

That is the last anyone hears of her. We don’t know what happens to her after that.

Aang says that it’s a turn for the better or some shit, but NO ONE GOES TO LOOK FOR THE MENTALLY UNSTABLE, EXTREMELY POWERFUL, FIREBENDER!

I thought it was established in “The Search” (spoiler warning I guess?) that Azula ran off into Forgetful Valley, and it was implied that she was going to request a new face/new mind from the spirit who lives there.
If that were the case, Aang might think it would be “for the better” in the sense that Azula would have a chance for an entirely new life, completely separate from her previous trauma and instabilities.
Which would also be “better” for the world at large, because there would be one fewer mentally unstable firebender running around.
That was how I understood that ending. 

I love when people come into the library and are like, “I hear you’re having a book sale. I want X, Y, and Z. Do you have it?”

Like, do you know how this works?
Library book sale =/= Book Store
People donate things, they go into the basement, people buy them (or don’t).
Some of the books in the sale have been here longer than I have.

It is absolutely ridiculous to expect me to know whether we have a given title or author in the book sale.
If it’s a popular author (like, one of those authors who releases 4 books a year), I might recognize the name and have an idea of whether I’ve seen anything.
But, generally speaking, I don’t have a mental inventory of the book sale. The circulating collection? Yes. And I have tools to search the collection and see what we have or don’t.
That doesn’t exist in the book sale.
The book sale is a free-for-all.

You, the patron, can go to the book sale and see if we have what you’re looking for. If you ask, I will even help you scan the shelves for your title/author. 
But don’t stand on the threshold, say, “Do you have this title in your book sale?” and then run away when I say “I’m honestly not sure.” 
Adjust your expectations, people.

trainhardbestrong:

hannahroad:

hannahroad:

hannahroad:

Miley: “Dad I have something for Tanners bug collection”

my uncle: “that’s great”

Miley: “it’s a bird”

my uncle: “no its not”

-chirping noise-

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They let it go and it flew away just fine, so we’re wondering how she caught it.

update:

she caught another bird.

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update: she caught a squirrel today

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She is gonna rule the world one day with this power

Steve Irwin has been reborn.

(via mana--tea)

wellbehavedwomendomakehistory:

evelynvincible:

In case there was any confusion about where I stand on Tyrion: I have zero sympathy for Tyrion with regards to Sansa and Shae.

I don’t feel bad for him that his child bride doesn’t foresee ever wanting his dick. I don’t feel bad for him that the hostage his family tormented and abused refused to…

Agreed on Sansa. I don’t like Shae in the books or show but I understand her position. It probably meant her death either way (although she didn’t need to exaggerate the details as she did IIRC). But then again I guess that could’ve been avoided by not resorting to prostitution to begin with. though I never knew for sure if Tywin came onto her or the other way around. I couldn’t believe Tywin would resort to whoring, especially since he never got over his wife so I kinda assumed Shae came onto him, in which case I have a little less sympathy for her.

I guess I’ll get to the little issues first, then deal with my big issue here.

  1. Yeah, Shae did need to “exaggerate the details” because she needed to get in good with Cersei/Tywin. Holding back would have gotten her in trouble for sure; she needed to convince her captors that she was cooperating fully.
    Remember: Shae has no social standing and no political power. Her survival is contingent on pleasing whoever’s hands her life is currently in.
  2. It’s clear that not only is prostitution generally regarded as a reality for lowborn women with few other options — women who don’t have husbands to protect them, women whose families cannot support them, women whose towns have been pillaged leaving them nowhere to go, women who have run-ins with knights (who either rape them, or lie to get in their pants, and then leave them) — it’s also canon that Shae became a prostitute to get away from her father who was raping her.
    So fuck you and your “could’ve been avoided by not resorting to prostitution to begin with” bullshit.
    This could have been avoided if Tyrion treated Shae like her life was more important than having his dick satisfied.

But my real issue is your position on Tywin.

First off, we never hear Tywin talk about Joanna, except to blame Tyrion for her death.
All the talk about Tywin’s celibacy is from Cersei, who is not the most reliable narrator in the best of circumstances, but almost certainly wouldn’t be an authority on her father’s sex life regardless.
Second, the inciting incident given as evidence of Tywin’s disdain for whores is his exile of his father’s bedwarmer, who had been elevated basically to noble status since Tywin’s mother’s death. Now, did he exile her because she was a prostitute, or because she’d risen above her station? My guess is the latter. 
After all, when do we hear of Tywin threatening women/prostitutes? When they endanger the Lannister reputation. Tyrion’s marriage to Tysha is not so different, politically, from Tytos’ relationship with his bedwarmer. After all, it’s two Lannister men treating lowborn women like equals. And Tywin tears both women down in gross, misogynistic displays of power. 
When does he threaten Shae? After Tyrion defies his order not to bring her to court
So, what’s Tywin’s real issue? That he hates prostitutes? Or that he hates threats to his and his family’s reputation?

And even if we assume that Tywin HAS been celibate all these years, you really think it’s likely that Tywin allowed a prostitute to seduce him into dishonoring his wife’s memory? You think it’s more likely that Tywin’s resolve was broken, after years of restraint, by an overture from his least favorite son’s whore, than that he came onto her?
Point A: It’s likely that he had not been celibate for all those years. He didn’t dishonor his wife’s memory by flaunting his whores, the way his father had, and he likely was not sentimental about them, given how little regard he shows for lowborn lives, but he almost certainly got laid at least occasionally.
Point B: Tywin blames Tyrion for Joanna’s death. Tywin is a twisted, vindictive bastard (see: Elia Martell; The Red Wedding). Tell me Tywin wouldn’t have gotten a perverse kind of satisfaction from fucking Tyrion’s girlfriend. Hell, he may have gotten the same kind of satisfaction from what he did to Tysha: You took Joanna away from me, watch me take these women away from you.
And, really, we have a ton of evidence that Tywin doesn’t need recognition to feel smug about these things. It doesn’t matter if he can never publicly take credit for the rape and murder of Elia Martell. It doesn’t matter that Robb Stark will never know who orchestrated his death. It doesn’t matter that Tyrion was never intended to find out about Shae. All that matters is that Tywin won.

Making up a cute little headcanon where a teenage girl in a phenomenally dangerous situation is the corrupting influence on Tywin Lannister’s ~chivalrous and noble character~ is misogynistic and gross. Honestly. How much of a mental backflip are you doing, that you’re not certain Tywin has more agency than Shae? 
And, even if by some act of God (out of character and against all evidence) it became canon that Shae came onto Tywin: Shae has a vested interest in her own survival. She doesn’t owe Tyrion shit, given that he got her into this situation in the first place. Hating on Shae for doing everything she can to stay alive is still victim blaming bullshit, and it needs to stop.

Ridiculous Acts of Rebellion

liz011:

Okay, tumblr, here’s the deal.  I’m trying to collect stories of ridiculous acts of rebellion—Things you did to break the rules simply because you felt a need to break the rules.  Not because you were taking a moral stand against rules you felt were unfair.  Not because the rules hindered your fun.  Not because you felt destructive.  I’m looking for instances of rule breaking that accomplished nothing aside from that sense of satisfaction you get from showing that you can.

My story: The high school I attended had a dress code that required everything to be solid color, even your socks.  I had a pair of red and black striped thigh-high socks that I would wear a few times a year, just because sometimes I need to break a few rules.

Do you have a similar story to share?  If so, please either reblog this post and add it or submit it to my blog.  The reason behind this is related to a conversation I had with a coworker today.

Thanks for your help!

My entire elementary education was in parochial schools. The first one (K-5) was extremely relaxed and liberal. The second (6-8) was extremely structured, and run by some extremely structured people who explicitly did not want me there (which I’ve talked about in other posts).

So one time, I found a packet of stick-on earrings in an old binder, stuck one on my nostril like a nose-ring, and wore it to school.
Now, the school had a strict (and ugly) uniform. That’s basically undeniable.
But the uniform was not my issue. The issue was that these people already didn’t like me, so why not dissent just for the fuck of it?

Throughout the day, I crossed paths with the principal (a nun who was definitely not the president of my fan club) a few times, and every time I would catch her eyeballing me, and every time I would just eyeball her right back. 

Oh, is there a problem, Sister? Because until you name your issue, I’m going to pretend I have no idea what’s making your eye twitch like that.

It wasn’t until the end of the day, as we were all lining up to leave, that she broke down and asked me to “please take that thing off [my] nose.”

The hammer is my penis.

Joffrey Baratheon, A Clash of Kings (via incorrectgotquotes)

This would make so much more sense as a Robert Baratheon quote :(

theconcealedweapon:

i-like-to-obsess:

petition to ban “i kissed a girl” from all queer girl fanmixes 2k14

"It’s not what good girls do, not how they should behave."

If she was actually lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, etc, she wouldn’t say that.

I’m sorry, are you a woman who’s into other women?

Because if you’re not, then you’re not any kind of authority on what “actual lesbian/bisexual/pansexual/etc.” women would say (or think… or feel…)

I AM a bisexual woman, and I understand that what society tells me “good girls do” is not always in line with what I actually do.
Like, it takes an act of willful ignorance to read that line as “Katy Perry thinks women who are attracted to other women are bad.”
No. Katy Perry probably thinks society tells us that “good girls” don’t sexually experiment, and especially not for their own pleasure. 
Katy Perry might even be acknowledging a conflict between her identity as a “good girl” and these desires she has that “good girls” supposedly don’t.
And as a bisexual woman: yes, that’s a thing that I would talk about. The conflict between how you’re raised and how you feel can be kind of a big deal, ESPECIALLY when you’re still figuring out your sexuality.

On that note:
Bisexuals who are figuring out/coming to terms with their sexuality (experimenting, etc.) are not “fake” bisexuals. They are not “bad” bisexuals.
They may be inexperienced, insecure, annoying, or whatever else, but they define their sexuality, not you. 

So don’t you fucking dare tell fucking anyone “if you were actually [bisexual] you wouldn’t [say/do/think/feel] that.”
Don’t you fucking dare.
It is not now, nor will ever be, your place.

  • Customer: I know you work here, but do you actually garden?
  • Me: No, but I'm pretty knowledgeable. What can I help you with?
  • Customer: Maybe you can find me someone who actually gardens? A specialist or something? I need someone who really knows about these kinds of things. I have these bugs all over my trees...
  • [shows me phone picture of caterpillars on an evergreen bough]
  • Me: Those are caterpillars. I have a product here that's a pesticide for evergreen trees which claims to work against caterpillars.
  • [Customer grabs a different product off the shelf -- one *not* for evergreen trees and which *doesn't* claim to work against caterpillars]
  • Customer: I'm just going to try this one. This will work.
Do you actually know anything, or do you just work here? — A question my male coworkers don’t get asked